Such a nice reminder here! We’re about to move house, and the lifestyle change from city to market town is going to be big. We keep having the same conversation with each other, and it always ends with “but we’ll still be *us*!” Moving house and lifestyle isn’t really going to change our personalities 😂
Love this, Kerri. My husband and I met over twenty years ago in England, where we both were studying abroad, he for a year and I for a semester. He was from Milwaukee and hadn’t traveled much at all prior to that year; I’d traveled a lot more but mostly in the US (I’m an American, too). We both learned a lot, experienced a lot of joys as well as frustrations. You’re absolutely right about the need for asking deep questions and not just assuming that different is better. Also, I’m rethinking my dinner plans; sheet suppers are awesome! Nice pairing 😊
Thank you! I’m curious: Did it help you discern better to have met in a “travelling” environment? (I think Tsh Oxenreider said something like that recently about her own marriage.)
Hm. Good question. I think it helped insofar as we felt forced to act and think about what made us, like our understanding of ourselves based upon particular cultures. We’re Christians first (confessional Lutheran), Americans second, so being foreigners together with these cultures as primary unified us in a unique way. Then again, we did meet at a church potluck which followed a church service we’d both just attended, which felt very American midwestern and particularly Lutheran, so maybe the fact that we met in another county didn’t matter so much in the end. 🙂
Such a nice reminder here! We’re about to move house, and the lifestyle change from city to market town is going to be big. We keep having the same conversation with each other, and it always ends with “but we’ll still be *us*!” Moving house and lifestyle isn’t really going to change our personalities 😂
😂It’s so true! We bring our expectations right along with all the boxes… but here’s hoping the market town is filled with joy! :)
Love this, Kerri. My husband and I met over twenty years ago in England, where we both were studying abroad, he for a year and I for a semester. He was from Milwaukee and hadn’t traveled much at all prior to that year; I’d traveled a lot more but mostly in the US (I’m an American, too). We both learned a lot, experienced a lot of joys as well as frustrations. You’re absolutely right about the need for asking deep questions and not just assuming that different is better. Also, I’m rethinking my dinner plans; sheet suppers are awesome! Nice pairing 😊
Thank you! I’m curious: Did it help you discern better to have met in a “travelling” environment? (I think Tsh Oxenreider said something like that recently about her own marriage.)
Hm. Good question. I think it helped insofar as we felt forced to act and think about what made us, like our understanding of ourselves based upon particular cultures. We’re Christians first (confessional Lutheran), Americans second, so being foreigners together with these cultures as primary unified us in a unique way. Then again, we did meet at a church potluck which followed a church service we’d both just attended, which felt very American midwestern and particularly Lutheran, so maybe the fact that we met in another county didn’t matter so much in the end. 🙂
It sounds like maybe there was a “home away from home” element to your meeting :)
Ha ha—true!