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Haley Baumeister's avatar

I read the former essay recently, and will put the latter on my to-read docket. The Plough essay on paying manual laborers (shared this week) touches on some of this, too. And I had pulled up a Dorothy Sayers essay on work and really this is constantly on my mind!!

These things regarding money and finances are such a struggle because 1) we live in a broken world and economy where worthy work isn't always compensated and we can't always live on our passions (I know, I know that's not what anyone is fully advocating!) and 2) those lines between trust, generosity, stewardship, and prudence can be so so tricky to navigate when it comes to work. Like, my husband has a "good job" he enjoys for the most part, and that allows me to stay home in these young years even if we live in a smaller, older home than we'd like and saving money is still difficult. But goodness, I feel for the families who would love this setup but are making so much less for whatever reason, or the mom has to work something she hates in the little years or whatever.

So I always tread lightly and hopefully with humility because while we are doing fine (and are by many definitions very privileged), I realize the economy, housing market, inflation, childcare, etc is such that even the most frugal people are struggling these days. And many men in particular do take those higher paying professions not out of greed but an honest desire to love their families. I don't know, this is more conversation-level stuff, there is SO much here! haha Many mindsets around money are absorbed from our families of origin, too β€”but how much is wise and good, and how much of our decisions are based in fear or greed? Where does serving God and neighbor or creating a truly flourishing life come in? Even within our current state of things I think your approach to discernment is really needed. And, I always love hearing women talk about their unique approaches, of course. :)

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Annelise Roberts's avatar

We love Shepherd’s Pie but I don’t always love the mashed potatoes part β€” this topping idea is genius and so much faster. I’m definitely going to have to give it a whirl.

Re. the wealth topic…I think about this a lot too. I grew up in a family that I think truly idolized the β€œgood job” perhaps largely due to my grandpa’s Depression era experiences. But it’s just such an odd perspective in some ways. Things like ingenuity and hard work and the ability to work with one’s hands were really trivialized. So it’s been this uphill battle throughout our marriage for me to not be holding my husband up to an arbitrary standard that is *really* not what I think, but where I still feel this weight of social stigma of anything that’s not a β€œgood” job. Even though, not pursuing a job (doctor, lawyer, engineer etc…) like that has truly given us so much flexibility.

I do of course think about things like saving and retirement and was having a discussion with friends today about how people even pay for college. Our hope would be to give each of our children a lump sum or boost as they reach adulthood, but we can’t pay for college tuition! It’s just really complex, and with inflation and housing the way it is, seems like it’s only getting more so.

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